How My Love for Maserati Lead to Dream Job Loss

So here it is, the truth in black and white…my family and friends know nothing about the story I am sharing with you today. I have been unable to utter a single word about the situation with the exception of a select few and even that was a challenge.

Firstly, let me take a step back, a moment to rewind.

About two years ago, I accidently became a writer after I started writing articles on Linked In after a tumultuous break-up. The emotion was flowing out of me in an unbelievable fashion. I began writing articles, which then turned into writing songs day and night. I would be wide awake in the middle of the night overflowing with inspiration to write songs, sometimes for days on end.

One day, Joel Brown approached me on Linked In and asked if I would write for Addicted2Success, which I was super excited to do so. My mind has one track ‘Dream Big’, so I did. I reached out to one of the world’s most premium writing platforms, fortunately, it was a process that paid off.

With all my heart, I can honestly say that I have never felt so proud to work for a company. Being asked to work with their team was one of the happiest days of my entire life.

Fast forward to that fateful day late last year, when I was getting ready for my day ahead. At the time, I was blissfully happy and completely unaware of what was about to unfold. My editor messaged me to have a ‘chat’ and I immediately felt sick to the stomach as I felt the colour immediately drain from my face. I could tell something wasn’t right yet I did not want to believe it and instead repeated positive thoughts in my head to no avail.

Instead of a personal ‘chat’ I was promptly cut off from the system and received an email explaining our relationship was no longer. I was absolutely reeling – no feedback or conversations, no time to do things differently, no idea in the world how this came to be – your out! It was like being knocked over by an icy arctic wind that slammed you so hard against the wall you were knocked unconscious to the ground because you weren’t looking.

That day, shock set in, I slowly sipped my large coffee, watching the world go by. I could not utter a single word, nor could I muster a smile. There were certainly no tears nor would or could I repeat what I had just been told. This was supposed to be my ‘dream’, my purpose, this was supposed to be my source of happiness, meeting amazing people and interviewing entrepreneurs from around the world. Now what! I still had a massive list of incredible people to interview and I was already in the process of speaking to their people to organise an interview with the one and only, Ivanka Trump, the most incredible songwriter in the world, James Bay, Millionaire Mindset Author T.Harv Eker, the beautiful and courageous Robin Roberts from Good Morning America and the extraordinary talented Marie Forleo.

To my dismay, keeping this ‘secret’ all to myself and constantly running through the events of the year in my head did not serve me. If anything, it created a lack of clarity and tension that led to handling the situation very badly. My mind was racing the entire time searching for a ‘real explanation’. Sad to say, the reason stated was they believed I might have had a relationship with ‘Maserati as I mentioned them so much in my articles. Oh my god, if only it were true, they would have had a very ‘valid’ reason and it would be been far easier to accept.

Little did they know nor care that I am deadly serious about following the guidelines and code of ethics. To me, following the code of ethics was far more important than anything else, this opportunity was far too important to me to even think of jeopardising the relationship. Those who know me well would attest to that. I felt that I was harshly judged with no evidence and no jury to source the truth or to hear my side of the story.

I will admit wholeheartedly that it most certainly would be a massive dream come true if I were in a relationship with Maserati. I am insanely in love with cars as they represent ‘freedom’. My absolute favourite word and what I live to feel on any given day.

Looking back now with fresh eyes, it obviously was not meant to continue. For during that time, my health rapidly deteriorated, my relationships with family and friends were fractured, my social life almost non-existent and I was working alone. I had to accept the fact that I had officially hit rock bottom.

That said, I wouldn’t change a single thing, as I was fortunate enough to experience those magical moments speaking with incredibly talented entrepreneurs and I absolutely loved waking up at 4am with my coffee in one hand and pen in the other, writing articles and liaising with my editor.

Sometimes, you think or perhaps you truly want to believe in your heart that you are happy instead you find out that there is another way, a new and improved situation and opportunities on the horizon, a new road map to follow.

Now I know it is about following your heart and trusting that the universe will lead you where you are supposed to go. It is taking the time to remember that whatever leaves you, is simply not meant for you.

The Phenomenon of Positive Thinking

A positive mindset has a definite impact on the future of oneself just as the phenomenon of positive thinking dramatically increases your chances of success in any endeavor. A positive mindset turns undesirable situations into good situations. Whatever you expect from life occurs.

For example: When you know you are worthy and an achievement is within your grasp, you relax and look for solutions rather than dwelling on problems. You are more likely to imagine positive situations or outcomes and disregard thoughts related to giving up, failure, or roadblocks.

By anticipating joy, good health, happiness, and accomplishment, then that will be your experience. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Positive thinking may sound like a simple shift in attention and it is; yet it is your mind-set that must be developed.

William Shakespeare once said, “There is nothing either good or bad – but thinking makes it so.”

Let’s now take a look at various definitions of Mindset:

  • A fixed mental attitude or disposition that predetermines a person’s responses to and                      interpretations of situations. (The Free Dictionary)
  • A mental inclination, tendency, or habit. (Merriam-Webster.com)
  • A person’s usual attitude or mental state is his or her mindset. (Vocabulary.com)
  • A person’s way of thinking and their opinions. (Cambridge Dictionary)

As any of my clients will tell you, I am not so much interested in what happens to them on any given day per se, I am more concerned with how they react to whatever happens. Your mindset plays a key role in determining your reactions. It is my experience that the only difference between stepping-stones and stumbling blocks is how you perceive them.

It’s easy to have a positive mindset when everything is going well yet it is those who have the ability to turn adversity into an advantage that are able to endure and attain success in the long run. My work involves teaching clients to look at inevitable setbacks, not as disappointments, rather as aberrations that present life-strengthening opportunities that ultimately facilitate growth.

The average human being tends to become discouraged by setbacks, as if we are entitled to only good things happening to us in our lives, and often dwell on playing the role of a victim. Doing so however, is a choice we make. This is the incorrect way to look at the world and ends to find oneself in a self-debilitating conclusion.

I view adversity as a gift that gives us the chance to work on things that need our attention now, before they become bigger problems that are more difficult to fix down the road. Many people do not realize that most top performers employ or hire an expert who checks in with them at least once a week to keep their mindset on track.

As humans, we all have blind spots, and it is crucial to have a trusted outsider’s view, as they can offer insights that regularly hit the bulls-eye to help you keep moving forward. These check-ins become more paramount during times when things are going well. The reason being is that blind spots are even more common during stretches of success, than in times of adversity. It is crucial to not lose sight of what got you to the triumphs you are currently experiencing, if you want them to continue. The greater your triumphs, the more likely you will be surrounded by people who tell you only what you want to hear and never what you need to hear.

Unfortunately, I have seen many coaches, players and CEO’s fall victim to their ego. When your ego takes over in any situation, it complicates things and leads to poor choices as the best choices are made when things are simplified. Having someone to help you keep your ego in check plays a large role in maintaining a growth mindset.

Most people who fall victim to their growing ego do so because it grows so slowly that they are oblivious to the fact it has taken over their psyche. One of the greatest minds of all-time, Benjamin Franklin fell victim to his ego before realizing that no-one could stand spending time with him. Unlike most people, he was able to finally see past his ego and make corrections. This is a very rare incident and a good example of a situation where an ounce of prevention is greater than a pound of cure.

Recently, I was talking to a very successful coach whom I noticed was falling victim to his ego. He told me he had just finished reading Benjamin Franklin’s Autobiography and how much he enjoyed it. Subsequently, all I could think was that it was too bad that his mindset was in the wrong place and caused him to miss the message in the book, that he needed most.

To become one of the most iconic figures in American sports, Jackie Robinson went through the unfortunate adversity of legitimate life threats in order for him to stop playing baseball. Players and teammates, coaches, and fans using racial slurs to get him to quit. Can you imagine?

Robinson had a growth mindset and positive attitude to use those threats and hate mongering as fuel. He grew up in extreme poverty with six siblings, playing four sports at UCLA, joining the military, and while in the military getting arrested during segregation for refusing to move to the back of the bus.

Robinson had heart, passion, and the courage to stand up towards authority in order for his beliefs and dignity. He was mentally tough and managed to block out the negativity as well overcome the constant thoughts of quitting when things got physically and emotionally tough, to overcome and shatter the color barrier in baseball, being the first African-American in baseball.

He was able to overcome the mental abuse he received out on the field and behind closed doors. Robinson had the right mind-set, the right attitude, and used adversity as motivation to remain focused and driven, which lead to success and he became Rookie of the Year.

One man changed baseball and the views of millions forever.

This is a true, inspirational story of what can transpire when you view life through a positive lens no matter how grim the situation is or how many challenges the world seems to throw at you. You are always more resilient and powerful than you think and know that you have the power to truly make a difference in this world. Once you become committed to embracing positive thinking, you will start believing that everything that you want is within your grasp.

You have the power to become as happy, content, or successful as you make up you’re mind to be. A positive mindset has a profound and instantaneous effect on your mood and the quality of your experiences. The bottom line is that in order for positive thinking to change your life, it must become your predominant mindset.

Written by Frederick Entenmann – Founder of Mind, Body, Life & Best-Selling Author of Surviving Sports and The Game of Life