When you get knocked down, use these 9 steps to bounce back and create a life you actually love.
Many of us understand exactly what it feels like to start again, whether it was your own choice or due to various factors forcing you to create massive changes in your life.
As we know, we receive messages from the universe, and if those messages are not heard, you get king hit, or knocked to the ground, to learn the lesson.
That could involve serious issues with our health, lousy relationships with family and/or friends, a failing business, challenges building wealth, or not living authentically.
It can be one area or every area of life. So what does one do when starting again?
You change your behavior to get back in the game super fast. Here’s how:
1. Reevaluate Your Life
Enlightening yet simple.
Draw a circle and divide it into areas of your life:
Give each area a score out of 10. Ten means excellent–1 means needs serious improvement. Add up the scores to get a total out of 60.
From there, you can assess which areas should be the priority for you to work on. If every area of your life has a low score, obviously you have work to do, so prioritize your life areas.
2. Get Back in the Game
Create a brand new strategy to propel you forward. Know exactly what terms you will and won’t accept in life anymore. Ask yourself:
• What new standards do I choose to live by?
• What behaviors will I cease tolerating?
3. Start Anew
There is nothing more powerful than who you associate with. These people, along with your level of growth, determine the speed for you to become the best version of yourself. It ranges from zero to full speed ahead.
Write down the most prominent people in your life to decide if they:
• Challenge you on your beliefs and views
• Are by your side when you need them
• Are happy for you when you achieve amazing things in life.
4. Style It Up
Reinventing yourself can be crazy fun when you are experiencing a period of massive change.
To style it up: get a new hairstyle or hair color, lose or gain weight, improve your diet, buy new sunglasses or accessories, update your wardrobe, create a brand new style, or ditch the glasses and have laser eye surgery.
Styling it up gives you an extra boost of confidence and energy.
5. Leave Fear Town Behind Forever
Release the ghosts that are haunting you and keeping you awake at night by mastering your mindset.
Avoid getting buried in the avalanche of other people’s fears. What other people say to you is a reflection of their own fears and beliefs.
Melissa Ambrosini‘s book, Mastering Your Mean Girl, talks about leaving your apartment in Fear Town to live in a mansion in Love City. Knowing what you want and believing you’re worthy are crucial and seal the deal to send you directly to Love City.
Ambrosini explains we have two choices in every moment:
To act from a place of fear or a place of love.
Actions from fear: Lying, cheating, stealing, bullying, blackmail, power, aggression, violence, revenge, and mind games.
Actions from love: Compassion, understanding, problem solving, producing, listening, kindness, creating, and inspiring.
6. Turn the Lights Back On
Rediscover what you love and what feeds your soul.
• What activities do you get completely lost in?
• When do you forget about the time and light up inside?
• When was the last time you felt exceptionally amazing?
7. Dig Deep
This is the scariest step for most people. It involves hard work, searching deep within your soul to determine who you are, what you want, and what living life means to you.
Your most valuable relationship is the one with yourself.
People go to great lengths to avoid it, by numbing their emotions with drugs, sex, alcohol, eating and shopping, toxic relationships, a hyperactive social life, and moving from relationship to relationship with no downtime in between. Anything to avoid hearing the voices in their heads or listening to the messages from their bodies, despite all the aches and pains, not to mention unprocessed emotions.
All these behaviors serve to do is delay the inevitable and ensure you fire up like a firecracker at some point or explode like an erupting volcano that hasn’t let loose for hundreds of years.
By doing the work along the way, it makes a much smoother road ahead.
8. Jump Off The Cliff
Take a risk and do something you never in a million years thought you would do.
Trust me, I’d never envisaged myself jumping from a plane, yet I did because I was so sick and tired of being scared of heights. It was one of the most amazing experiences of my entire life.
9. Empty Out the Trash
Stop living on autopilot and doing what you normally do. It’s clearly not working!
Now is the time to get off the merry-go-round and empty out the trash. Decide what is serving you and what is not.
Think of new and innovative ways to change your life to create new patterns, habits, strategies, and, most importantly, fabulous new results.
When the jigsaw puzzle of life has turned upside down and falls into one big mess of tiny pieces on the floor, pieces that were once your life as you knew it.
Create a new masterpiece of your life and yourself–a much more glorious, dazzling, and intoxicating version.
This article first appeared in Inc.com.